Do-overs vs. Do-nexts
Kate and I have a proud tradition of road trips. Many to Iowa to see our family, there. Several to California to visit my brother and his family. Some sweet ones to Santa Fe, one of my sacred places. So driving with her from Mississippi to Texas has been rich with memories and anticipation, the miles passing quickly.
We’re at a point in our lives when we can talk about difficult times we’ve shared–from extremely different perspectives, to be sure–with objectivity. That was then, this is now, and tomorrow will be tomorrow. It’s allowing us to piece together puzzles in our own lives and those close to us and find some some of the missing elements we couldn’t see before.
We’re in agreement on something else, as well: Life doesn’t give do-overs. But it does give do-nexts. If we can just hold on to what we’ve learned between those times, we have the right and the chance to move beyond.
Which is also a sweet dimension of being G (G…as in “G is for grandmother,” we are word-workers, after all 😉
Watching Dmitri and Kate with Lily has made me wish I’d done a few things slightly different when I was raising my girl.
And I still have time for some do-nexts.
Photo: Kate at 11 months