Waving change in
Photo: Lily, welcoming change…or maybe just waving to Dad.
It’s never too late to be what you might have been.
– George Eliot
My Wednesday morning confession: I spent a good portion of last night watching the season finale of The Biggest Loser and crying. It’s not just this particular show that has this effect; graduation ceremonies, reruns of What Not To Wear, and episodes of Oprah regularly turn me into a sobbing mess. Call me a sap, but there’s something about purposeful transformation that’s really inspiring– and these reminders that we can always choose to make a change, regardless of the mistakes that we’ve made or the struggles we’ve faced, give me hope and confidence.
I suppose it wasn’t just Olivia’s big win on BL that fueled this particular round of self-examination; lately, Dmitri and I have been doing a lot of talking about future-Lily and our future-lives. What kind of person do you think she’ll be– and what’s the best way to help her get there? Should we get her really involved in music and athletics early on, or should we wait and see what piques her interest? Should we push her to let her know that we want her to be successful, or should we take a more relaxed approach? And what’s our policy on quitting? Should we force her to stick with something she really hates, or should we make her stick it out?
We don’t have any solid answers yet, but we’ve decided that we really don’t want to be the kind of parents who force their kids to do all of the things that they didn’t have the opportunity–or weren’t brave enough–to try (Toddlers and Tiaras, anyone?), so we’re trying to get really clear about those hidden aspirations, both little and big, that still live inside of us. And you know what? That part of the conversation has been kind of fun. Neither of us are thinking full-scale reinvention (yes, I’ve made the decision to let my dream of becoming a ballerina/helicopter pilot/veterinarian go), but we’re both really excited about– and energized by– the idea that George Eliot might be right: there’s still time to become that person you’ve always wanted to be.
nosy curious, too, about you, our lovely extended network of friends and family. Is the person you are now the person you always imagined you’d become? If not, are there any major transformations (or tiny-but-significant) changes on the horizon?