This post comes with a sincere request for ideas: I want to know what you think/ believe/feel. Because I–and a lot of folks I know–could benefit from the conversation.
I’m one of those people who believes everything that happens “out there” in the world provides clues/lessons/opportunities for us to work on what’s “in here” in our personal lives. And so it’s been with Superstorm Sandy’s upheaval of life on the eastern seaboard. Watching from my Western comfort as Eastern neighbors struggle is decidedly uncomfortable. I will do what I can do to help.
But then comes the bigger life questions about moving through and moving on when crisis hits. Whatever the storm or fire, death or destruction…after the shock and the scare and the stomach-wrenching acceptance of loss..there comes a conscious battle for balance. How do we chart a come back? Can we intentionally develop and nurture whatever natural resilience is in our bones and brains to serve us better next time? And there will be a next time.
This article has had me thinking about that: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/03/opinion/forget-sustainability-its-about-resilience.html?hp
By definition, resilience is “a dynamic process in which individuals exhibit positive behavioral adaptation in times of significant adversity, stress, trauma, or tragedy. Also, the capacity to bounce back to homeostasis after disruption and resist future negative events/outcomes.”
But how do we do it? Beyond the strength and structure we draw from friends, family and faith, what works? Are there strategies we can take to avoid the quicksand of depression?
I’m making a list of what I’m seeing. Sincerely hope you’ll share your thoughts.
- On Learning Resilience and Equanimity (psychologytoday.com)
- “Be Resilient”: Katrina Survivors Talk to the Northeast (updates.jezebel.com)